Is It Love?

Dr Laura Catherine Schlessinger, an American talk radio host, socially conservative commentator and author, designed the following test. After taking this test, you'll quickly know whether your relationship has a good chance of growing into a long-lasting relationship, and maybe even marriage. Answer each question with 'YES' or 'NO' and later have your boyfriend/girlfriend take the test to see how you compare. Most importantly, be honest! Your future happiness depends on it.

1 Can you say there's no jealousy in your relationship? _____

2 Is your relationship free of drug and alcohol abuse? _____

3 Can you say you're never asked to compromise your moral values? _____

4 Do you appreciate and enjoy each other's family and friends? _____

5 Have you discussed your long-term goals for faith, family and career in detail? _____

6 Do you have complete confidence in each other? _____

7 Has experience shown him/her to be always truthful and open with you? _____

8 Does s/he always follow through on promises and commitments? _____

9 Do you talk openly and easily with each other about everything? (Including this test?) _____

10 Do you both listen carefully to one another and try to understand each other's point of view? _____

11 Do you practise the same faith by praying and going to temple/monastery/church/mosque together regularly? _____

12 Do you both agree that marriage is forever? _____

13 Do you refrain from using manipulation or blackmail to get your own way? _____

14 Do you like spending time together doing different activities? (Not just watching TV, mall shopping or talking on the phone together. I recommend volunteering for temple/monastery/church/mosque, charity and civic projects or joining school clubs, bands, debate teams or sports programme.) _____

15 When you have a disagreement or the going gets tough, do both of you respond respectfully with patience and understanding? _____

16 Have your family and friends told you they approve of your relationship—that they feel it's making you a better person? _____

17 Do you limit your physical relationship to holding hands and simple kisses? _____

18 Have you seen each other during good times and bad? (Virtues shine during adversity. Never rush to marriage. You'll miss critical signs of good or bad character traits.) _____

19 Do you both stay away from pornographic magazines, videos, internet, etc? _____

20 If your future spouse had a serious accident that maimed or disfigured him/her for life, would your love remain strong? Could your love survive without physical expression? _____

21 Do each of you dress, speak and act modestly? _____

22 Can you admit to your own shortcomings and discuss them openly? _____

23 Are you both generous in making sacrifices for others? _____

24 Does your sweetheart already have the qualities needed to be a super spouse and a wonderful parent for your children? _____

25 Are you willing to give up power and let your loved one control some of the important decisions and circumstances? (True love means frequently surrendering your will to meet your loved one's needs and wishes without violating your moral values.)

WHAT YOUR SCORE MEANS: >>

Give yourself one point for each 'YES' and zero points for each 'NO' answer.
(her Score: _____his Score: _____)

22-25 points: Solid as a Rock
it's true love! Congratulations on a very strong relationship.

19-21 points: Looking Good
Your relationship has good potential. With a little work, you can become "Solid as a Rock".

15-18 points: Warning Signals
it might be infatuation. Work on the no's. take the test again in 6 months and again in 12 months. hopefully your scores will improve and your relationship will grow. if your relationship doesn't greatly improve within a year, you should consider ending it.

Below 15 points: Red Alert
Sorry, this may be painful to hear, but it's probably time to saygoodbye. it's either blind infatuation or there are other serious problems. (if you're married and you scored below 15 points, don't give up—get some good marriage counselling aSap.)

** Bonus Question
Are both of you committed to saving sex for marriage? if yes,add 2 points to your score.

VOW-POLLS

Your favourite love quote:
a. The best thing about me is you.
b. I Love You, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
c. Pleasure of love lasts but for a moment, pain of love lasts a lifetime.
d. If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

Question of the Month
Would you ever go for a cosmetic surgery?
a. Yes, definitely
b. Yes, it depends
c. No, never
d. I don't know